Conceptualizing Pauleen’s bridal shower was a challenge. Finding out her motiff made it one step easier to putting everything together. So her favorite colors are blush pink and taupe. I immediately checked out pegs in the internet. There were times when I wanted to mix everything I saw making it a beautiful chaos (at least in my eyes) but the major challenge is sticking to the theme.
Blush pink made me decide to do luxe floral design. So from there, I tried my best to make sure every detail fit my theme. I started with the table cover. Glad my ever-reliable sastre knows what I mean when I describe something. Sometimes when she could not find the exact element I like, it is always fine to tweak a plan. We can also do this if there is a budget being followed.
As for the flowers, @allinthebag_ph gave me some beautiful carnations. I ordered 10 bundles of Alstroemeria ( as suggested by Badang) since the roses available then were only 10 bundles and there were no more carnation so I opted for Gerbera which for me was kinda off for my theme but then again i had to settle for them and just thought, as long as the flowers were pink, I was fine.
Chair covers. There was this design I really wanted but time was of the essence and it was kind of difficult to find the exact design and fabric so we chose the one nearest to it.
Other tiny details. Instead of using a table napkin ring, I copied @insta_mug’s design, printed and used it as the holder. Same thing with the Food labels and the name banner. I inserted fresh blush pink roses on the holes of the name banner to make it look more feminine. Everything was self-service so I used a white ceramic chafing dish and again to make the juice container fit the theme I placed fresh roses under the it. I also chose a nice fabric and design for the table napkins. One that can be used in other occasions, in other themes.
It was fun despite the challenge to make the place look pretty and all..I was happy to know everyone had so much fun and that every single thing was appreciated. I love doing this for people I love. Would of course like to do it for people who would choose to celebrate any special day with us.
When I offered to throw a bridal shower for Poleng, I really did not know yet what to do. All I knew was to hold it in cafe Lima so venue and food would not be a problem. All I wanted to do was do it for her because I love this girl so dearly, the person that she is and how wonderful it is to be her friend. I am blessed!
Suddenly came into my mind..a calligraphy workshop might be good and not an ordinary concept plus I would finally get to make them try what I am quite obsessed about now.
As ideas come to mind, I started asking beautiful people for help, they willingly and immediately said yes! so I would not have pulled off a great bridal shower if it were not for these generous people.
And as for you, Marie Pauleen Luna, I wish you a perfect wedding day and I wish for all your wishes to come true. You deserve this happiness and more. You do not need my advise on marriage because you have the mind of a 40 year old. I know that this life journey with Vic will be great! Pinkies forever!
Cafe Lima is turning out to be an Arts and Eats place.. Because of my love for Calligraphy, it has become a venue for workshops.
I saw a good showbiz friend, Sheree Vidal after so many years and learned she has been painting for years.. I mentioned I have long been searching for an art teacher and she generously shared hers.
So immediately I scheduled a painting class with the teacher, one on one. I planned for Eia to join but she was napping then and towards the last last hour she was able to join us and we were both happy with our first ever attempt to paint.
Friends expressed their liking to try and week after I scheduled a class in Cafe Lima. It was fun and even my son Pao said “Mom I never thought you could paint”… I replied, “same here” hahahaha…
Days after, we had to do another calligraphy class to quench our thirst for practice. Simutaneously, painting class for kids and not so young kids went on while Moms were doing calligraphy. Both were productive. And it’s great to start them young. I’m so proud of my Eia’s artwork. She has developed the love for what she calls “crafty crafty” which may mean: calligraphy, painting, watercoloring…
Of course in the middle of the workshop, everyone got to taste my grilled egg and cheese sandwich and tuna pasta.. In other workshops I cooked my own version of Aglio Olio with still my favorite grilled egg and cheese sandwich…
For schedule of Painting and Calligraphy workshops and other workshops in the near future, please follow me on Instagram, @sherilynrtan and @inkyfingersph
I remember my friend Via inviting me to a calligraphy workshop. I begged off since I was not interested yet in it plus I was not into arts and crafts (never was until 40). Months after I don’t remember how I got interested in it but probably saw posts on Instagram and decided one day to try it. Yes, I may be an actress but believe me, I’m the shy type, well at least sa start 🙂 …. I cannot go to an event alone…but I finally had the courage and attended my first ever basic calligraphy workshop. Found it really interesting. But to be good at it, requires practice at least 15 minutes a day. I got busy and forgot about it for a while. Two months after, it was during the time Cafe Lima was about to start operation, I decided to attend EventStyling classes and attend more calligraphy workshops so I can improve and eventually use this skill in Cafe Lima.. I wanted to be the one to do our wall but I was not confident then yet as I was just a newbie and have not even gone to a typography workshop. I have gone to several workshops. Invested on some stuff so I could practice at least a phrase or a word every night before going to bed. Different teachers, different techniques, new tips.. even if the workshop is the same. For moms or people who are always on the go, this is perfect if way to relax. Very therapeutic. If you just want to slow down for a while, Calligraphy is the way. So addicting.
I have invited a few teachers for workshops in Cafe Lima and no one leaves unhappy after. It gets so addicting you want to schedule the next sesh right away. One nice thing also is that my friends became friends.. No one comes to the class alone and leaves without having a new friend..
Some asked, Does it follow when you have a bad handwriting you will not be good in Calligraphy.. it is totally different. In fact, calligraphy will improve your handwriting.
It’s nice to see one’s improvement. I kept all my practice and activity sheets from the past calligraphy workshops and happy to see my progress. This February, I will fly to attend a workshop in Singapore. I want to eventually teach.. I want to write beautifully.. I want to write on Cafe Lima’s blank wall all the other important things about life and relationship.
Really never too late to learn something new. I just woke up one day to discover I have a creative bone that has woken up from a very long and deep sleep and is ready to face the world..
So yes, there will be more Calligraphy workshops in Cafe Lima and other workshops like Painting for adults and kids, cooking class, gift wrapping, photography (for mommy bloggers).. Tune in to @inkyfingersph on Instagram or my IG for schedules. Hope to see you guys there…
My husband Chris…I cannot describe how amazing this guy is.. Every single day of his life, he wakes up with this on his mind: What can I do today to be productive? What can I do today improve myself… He tells this to my sons like a broken record. And now, facing the new year, he reminded me how I should not limit myself and not to say NO, I can’t without even trying. Lucky my bag client turned friend, Zetty offered her beautiful “HOLIDAY HOUSE” (Eia’s term) in Anvaya where we stayed for almost a week. Her dirty kitchen reminded me of my Lola’s dirty kitchen back in Batangas. I enjoyed cooking every single meal time and how I got more and more excited to cook for these people seeing them love and enjoy my cooking. I don’t know if Eia was making me bola but she never failed to praise me and my cooking, despite the fact that she called my Salpicao adobo and had two servings… Pao asked me what happened to me. He said, “it wasn’t like this before”..Chris said I truly belong in the kitchen and that “bagay ka talagang maging housewife” which I said was the best thing I have ever heard.. and Lorenz, “Mom If I could only shout to the world, You’re the best mom in the whole world”.. I can say, ang sarap ng start ng 2016 ko..
This year, Chris promised to support me in everything I want to do…continue my painting workshops, my calligraphy classes and whatever I want to learn.. Honestly, yes there are so many things I want to continue doing and things I want to learn but I do not want to be away from my family for more than 3 hours.
I am so blessed I do not have a husband who is “alagain“.. I love serving him and he loves being taken care of but he also understands that I should be doing something else like working out (which we promise to do together again), go back to my badminton training, continue my love for painting and calligraphy. He believes I can be more and it’s never too late. Yes Mommies, it’s never too late to learn something new.. so this year, ask yourselves, is there something you want to do? to improve? to stop doing? So apart from aiming to be a better mother and wife, I aim to really be good in Calligraphy so I could teach in the future and hold workshops in Cafe Lima… I hope to lose 5-10 pounds and maintain the weight and set a regular workout schedule and of course my time for my family will always be there as it is and has always been my priority: My Family!
So from my family to yours, HAPPY NEW YEAR and may this year be a better one for all of us! Wishing everyone good health, blissful moments with your loved ones and more beautiful memories…
Finally the long overdue family photoshoot in Anvaya! I grew up not having too many baby photos thus my love for documenting every single moment that for me is beautiful.
My schoolmate in High School, THE Denise Go-Ochoa despite her super busy schedule did not say NO to me and her team went all the way with us to Anvaya to make sure we looked good in every shot.
NicePrint sent their team and we had so much fun! We were so comfortable with the team and we ended with a nice dinner in a loooong table.
We only had max of 3 hours before sun down and we finished having a nice dip in the water, all dressed up.
Everything turned out well. The kids had so much fun especially Eia. Chris and I were so happy how the day turned out to be.. it was not just a photoshoot at all, it was a day of bonding and soooo much laughter. You know what they say, to be in your child’s memories, you have to be in their lives today. and take photos! Lots of them! They may not appreciate now but they will thank you in the future…
Let me make this short and sweet! When I had Ryle (Pao), I was 23 years old. I wanted to discover things on my own, yes, I welcomed some pieces of advise and tips but I was so eager to discover motherhood on my own. Ate Cel (Maricel Laxa), I actually forgot how we got to talk about this but I embraced her suggestion and followed it until I had my last born, Eia.
ON BECOMING BABYWISE book. I learned this book from her. Getting to know your baby and establishing a routine for him/her at a very early age is what the book is all about.
So my kids follow a specific bath time, feeding time, nap time etc. They did not also get used to being rocked (hele)… I remember INA RAYMUNDO telling me the book actually encouraged her to have more babies since It was not difficult to take care of them once you have learned to follow what the book says.
Long and short of it all is that during daytime, after feeding the baby, you should not allow him to sleep. Instead, play with him or let him stay awake for a few minutes before he naps. That way, he will know that the difference between daytime and nighttime is that, there is no PLAY time after feeding time at night.
Playtime should also be in his playpen or somewhere else but not in is crib cause the crib is for sleeping.
There is also a time for changing nappies.
You may think it is hard to establish his routine. Yes at first, but you will benefit from it once you both have adjusted to it. You will be able to schedule your mall time or “pasyal” based on his routine. And if he cries, you will definitely know why cause you know when it is time to sleep so he may probably be sleepy… or since you know when it is time to change nappies or feed him, you would know if his nappies need changing or if he is hungry. You will not be figuring out what is wrong with him since you know what’s going on with your baby.
You will know the difference between all his types of cry. He will not be used to “I’m crying so pick me up” because you will be taught to allow him to cry for a certain period of time to determine which types of cry need immediate attention.
Even his milk will always be fresh as you will teach him to finish what’s in the bottle every feeding time.
So there you go, It’s up to you Mommies if you want to give this a shot but this book has sure helped me a lot.
Looking at Tita Beth’s and Via’s posts made me salivate to the point of asking Tita Beth to invite me and cook for me. So, yes, Next day I grabbed my Patty Ang Cape Blazer to make sure I was dressed presentably for a lunch date with THE Beth Romualdez.
She prepared (very easy to make) Watercress and Fern salad with Dayap Vinaigrette and Baked Halibut. Perfect for those on a diet and still want to eat delicious food and not those that taste like cardboard. Since she had the same dish the previous day, she cooked for herself something else, Grilled Tangigue but also very tasty and easy to cook. Prepared them for dinner one night and my boys loved them.
Here are the recipes and beautiful photos taken by @livinlavialoca. If you want to surprise your husbands with candlelight dinner, super perfect ito! Do not be intimated as the ingredients are available anywhere (she goes to Farmers) and procedure very easy…
salt and pepper
lime (a thin slice)
olive oil (1 tablespoon)
wrap with parchmein paper
bake (oven toaster will do) for about 10-15 minutes
TANGIGUE (Tita Beth grilled hers, mine was Chilean Sea Bass and pan seared), yellow peppers, picked banana peppers and garlic
MY VERSION: (based on what’s available in my ref)
Chilean Sea Bass seasoned with salt and pepper, pan seared
add garlic, green pepper, bell pepper, pickles
Extra Virgin Olive Oil
You can grab copies of her cookbooks at National Bookstore. Thinking everyday of what to serve is really tough. Tita Beth’s recipes are all easy and very delicious!
(photos taken after we kissed and made up..tonight)
I don’t remember disciplining a child this hard with our two boys..probably because Chris was the one mostly dealing with them. I was the one with a softer heart when it comes to the boys. But we agreed on being consistent which was the hardest part for me.
Now that we have an ONLY girl, and the youngest (to make it worse), I would not deny the fact that she can bend the rules at times…especially with Chris. She just knows how to melt her dad’s heart and I understand that it’s hard to punish her but it MUST be done!
She is now 4 years old, at the stage where she can be very unsociable. But when she says “I dont like her”, it only means, Mom, I’m shy! But then again, I don’t like her does not mean I am shy… But once she has made friends, she can be very nice and make you her bestfriend right away. But again, It is not right that words and phrases like: “NO!”, “I don’t like you” come out of her mouth.
Most of the time, we talk firmly to Eia, what she did wrong and why she should not do it again. Saying sorry is so easy for her that it came to a point when she thought everything would be back to normal after saying it.
One day we were going to watch a movie that was not for her. We were all out then for dinner and I forgot what offense she did but I saw an opportunity to make it a reason why she was going home instead of watching movie with us. She cried, of course and next day, said sorry first thing. But that time finally she knew I was not joking when I told her I will leave you in the house if you misbehave.
Last week she was all dressed up to go with us to her Ninang Regine’s concert but earlier that day, she disobeyed me and stamped her feet when she got annoyed. We talked to her and decided why she cannot come with us.
There were times when she would really throw a tantrum and it has been agreed, “walang papansin”, even her Ate Mar.. when someone is angry at her, everyone is not allowed to give her attention. When she does not talk properly to the Ates, the Ates are not allowed to attend to her. If she does not treat them right then they can leave and no one will cook for her, wash her clothes etc.
Yesterday was a good day, she was very obedient. She did not fight a classmate nor contradicted Ate Mar. She just said yes when told it was time to go home.
Just today in school, she knows that to hit reply is a NO!NO! but still she did to a parent of a classmate who was asking her to go inside the classroom. She apologized twice and for her it should not be a big deal anymore after her apology. She came home and said sorry for what she did. I realized the gravity of the offense after her yaya told me everything and unfortunately for Eia, she was ready to leave to have dinner with us. Yes, we left her! She was crying and begging me to forgive her. I said okay but she knows that she will have to stay home as a consequence for what she did because we have just talked to her about it and that she knows it was not right because on their way home, she asked her Ate Mar if she could be allowed to watch TV since she committed a mistake so for sure, the Ipad is off limits. Cried at the top of her lungs while stamping her feet and threw her amulet to the floor. That ticked me off. I ran up to her, and spanked her. Her dad got off the car and ordered her to go up to her room. She knows when to be scared with her Dad. She asked Ate Mar to hug her and she refused to and told her, it was her fault.
Breaks my heart but what must be done should be done! And consistency is very vital. She cannot have an ally when she is being punished for what she did. “Kung sinong kaaway, siya lang ang puedeng pumansin”. Not even grandparents. We can cut them some slack but when it comes to more serious things that need attention, yes, we have be in it together. They have to respect the rules of the parents.
Coming home, Daddy woke her up and talked to her. She went to me and apologized, we both cried. I told her how much it hurts me when I get angry with her more so spank her. But we stressed out that if we didn’t love her, we would not pay attention to the wrong things she does and just let her grow up that way, then she would have no friends and no one will like her. That yes, she is my bessie, I am her best buddy but it does not mean I will not get mad at her when she does something wrong. That it doesn’t make me a bad mommy when she gets spanked because it is done to correct her.
And lately, we have been going in and out of toy stores without buying anything. She knows that she cannot have everything more so when she does something wrong. We told her that Santa will be the one to decide whether he will give her toys this christmas or not.
As I put her to sleep, she prayed, Lord, I want to be a good girl. Eia, I know will grow up to be a good person because she reminds me so much of her. I was even worse. Cause I always had my Lola as my ally. One day, I will share all my kinks during my childhood. My Titos and Titas who saw me growing up and did not see me for years were all amazed at how nice I have become (lol). I don’t know but growing up, I enjoyed being “pilya” and now that we have Eia, they say, “ayan na ang katapat mo”. That was why part of the prayer my mom taught me when I was a child is “make me a good girl always”. and I still say the same prayer…Parenting is tough but I embrace it so lovingly!